A new study has found that having a child can make a couple less happy with each other. Researchers from the University of Denver conducted an eight-year study of 218 sets of parents. Their report is called “The effect of the transition to parenthood on relationship quality”. It is published in the March 2009 edition of the ‘Journal of Personality and Social Psychology’. The psychologists examined how happy couples were in the eight years after the birth of their first child. They concluded that the first baby put a lot of stress and pressure on a marriage. Ninety percent of couples experienced a decrease in marital bliss immediately following the birth of their first child. Unmarried couples experienced bigger problems.
It’s not all bad news for would-be parents. Some couples in the research said their relationship was stronger after their baby was born. Parents who were married for a long time before starting a family were happier. Couples on higher incomes also seemed to have fewer problems. Researcher Scott Stanley said his team’s findings did not mean children bring unhappiness in life. He said that parents may be happier as part of a family than as a childless couple. He noted that “this type of happiness can be powerful and positive”. Stanley also pointed out that couples who did not have children also became unhappier with each other over time. However, he said parenthood accelerated levels of unhappiness.
这是一篇三月份发表在“Journal of Personality and Social Psychology”的文章,tittle: No Kids The Secret To A Happier Marriage。今天,很流行的“丁克家庭”不知你怎么看,就是没有孩子的家庭。我个人认为,有孩子的家庭才是完整的。但是,老公不想要小孩,不知道在不远的将来我的想法会不会像这篇文章第一段所描述的parent那样,觉得没有小孩的两个人才是快乐的呢……,阅读完这篇文章,你又有何感想呢?

April 28th, 2009
kyra 

