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有没有吸引力并不取决于你赚多少钱，也不取决于你的老爸是谁。而且，这完全不取决于你是否长得像汤姆·克鲁斯或者他的妻子凯蒂·赫尔姆斯。这仅仅取决于一些简单的细节，像汤姆·克鲁斯一样的人也不一定能办到。而来自任何种族，任何国家，任何背景的人，都能成为世界上最有吸引力的人。

It’s not about how much money you make, and it’s not about who your daddy is. And no, it’s definitely not about whether you look like Tom Cruise or his wife Katie Holmes … What it is about is these simple things, things that maybe even a person like Tom Cruise does not have.

And note, we are not necessarily talking about sexual (male attract female) things here. We’re talking about being attractive in general, whether it’s on a job interview or just gaining the respect of your colleagues . . .

Ask lots of questions

In other words, be humble. If you come across as a know-it-all (even if you really do know it all!), it really pushes people away. Rather, asking lots and lots of questions (even dumb ones) makes people feel like you care, you can be trusted, and you are… humble.

Great posture

Have you ever seen a potentially very attractive person, but they have terrible posture? It’s all ruined, isn’t it? Or perhaps you have seen someone who perhaps could be quite ugly but they have great posture and so suddenly they are really attractive? It’s true. Your posture says a lot about you – it says whether you have confidence, or simply if you really care. Talking physically, it is one of the most important physical characteristics you need!

Walk like you mean it

Walk with an attitude. Walk like you know where you’re going, and do so with good posture. Walk like you’ll run over anyone who even attempts to hassle you. If you walk like this, you’ll be spotted from a mile away.

Stay busy

Do you really know the power of this? We’re told to stay busy to ward off depression and feelings of anxiety. But did you know you should also stay busy to be really attractive? It’s true. Always have something to do. Have you ever seen someone just sitting around, doing nothing? How unattractive. Always be busy with something, even if for some reason you have to make something up.

Show your pearly whites (or just smile)

Smile more, no matter how ugly your teeth are. I’m not kidding about this one. It’s not all about the teeth. If you are smiling genuinely, you can draw everyone for 100 meters around to you.

Keep your lips smooth

Moisturize your lips. It’s hard to even look someone in the face if their lips are cracked and dry. And it’s hard to believe that they really care about anything. That’s just the way we humans think. So for cryin’ out loud carry around a tube of chap stick around with you … they’re only like a buck a pop, and they’ll last you a while even if you put it on as regularly as I am eluding to! And no, women, it’s not necessarily about the lipstick (although, yes, there is a time and place for it) … it’s more about the simple, natural beauty of supple lips. Caution! Don’t put so much on that it’s just scary, however. But I didn’t need to tell you that, right?

Wear what fits

Wear clothing that fits you. Too tight, people are distracted. Too loose, you just look sloppy. For women, wearing tight pants or shirts is not attractive. If you’ve got it, don’t flaunt it – it ruins it for your man (there are a few things best left to the imagination, honey). Loose, slightly clingy or drapey things are best, or else things that just fit you and your shape well but not tight. Men, us women with taste and style really don’t know why some guys think their pants sagging down is somehow attractive. It’s not! And neither is huge, wide leg pants. Both just tell us you don’t really care. You’re following the crowd. Wear things that fit you nicely, please . . . And for goodness sake, both sexes, stay away from logos and printed shirts! Most people you may ask do not find this attractive. Stop being some company’s billboard, and show us you.

Be interested in other man

Be interested in the other person. Again, ask them questions. Don’t talk about yourself … remove attention from yourself. If you are genuinely interested in the person, it will come across. And if you want to talk about yourself, you’ll find that putting the other person first actually opens him up to return the favor and ask you questions. See how fun this is?

Put away inhibitions

Ok, there is a time and a place to play shy. But, for the most part, putting away inhibitions makes people feel comfortable around you. Even if you go ahead and do something and totally mess it up, it really makes everyone comfortable around you and want to be around you. People are fragile, especially those who don’t put into practice what I’m saying in this article. And so that means they need someone like you to lean on.

So, yes it is possible to be the most attractive person in the world. If you’ve noticed the ring throughout the article, it has a lot to do with just being confident in who you are. Nobody needs to look like Tom Cruise or Will Smith or their wives, or anyone else for that matter. Every person, of every race, of every nationality, of every background, can be the most attractive person in the world .